I know I’m going to get a lot of flack for this question. When my ex and I were together, we got a home equity loan to pay off all her credit cards (cause she was going crazy and using plastic as therapy), when we got married I insisted no credit card debt, so we had none, we were fine and she started spending the more depressed she got (becuase having 4 kids in a short time is stressfull etc) Anyway, she charged up to 60 grand in credit card debt, so I got a home equity loan, consolodated her debt and that was fine. She started cheating, racking up another 30k in debt, and we got divorced, she’s finling bancrupcy for the 30 k, but the 60k loan is in my name. When we got divorced, the judge ordered her to pay 1100.00 a month in "child support", but it was ONLY for her loan, the lawyers classified it as child support since I said I didn’t need anything from her except for her to pay her loan. She agreed. Now she won’t pay. Should I not let her see the kids? I have custody.
I’ve threatened many times before and she doesn’t care. She’s an RN, and she has no bills now except cell phone and rent she shares w/her sister, since I gave her a new car. She can afford to pay, but just won’t. Court can’t do anything to enforce child support, they can just threaten. She already hurts the kids by seeing them only when SHE wants, not when she’s SUPPOSED to. I don’t want to hurt the kids cause I think they HAVE to have their mother, but she says she won’t pay and she laughs cause she knows nobody can make a defaulting souse to anything other than talk bad about them.
Normally I wouldn’t care about the money, but since I’M PAYING HER DEBT! I just got my property tax bill which got me pissed, it’s 8000.00, if I didn’t have to pay her debt, I’d be able to pay my property tax!